The goal of all endeavours should be our happiness, peace and satisfaction. It comes from doing what we are good at and what we enjoy doing. Any achievement which happens is just a by product and not the purpose. But the majority of people are striving to be successful in the eyes of their peers and society. A vain drive & struggle to make efforts towards a superficial aim to boost our false ego. You dont have to succeed at everything that you do, the only thing that matters is readiness to try new things for the purpose of learning. Nobody knows for sure when but if you keep trying things that make you happy then you will end discovering what you are best & natural at. In fact, I believe you will have abundance of what you seek now, unknowingly, that you d want to share it with anybody who needs it.
All I see around me is tremendous pressure to excel to win recognition for your efforts and gain some benefit from it. Everybody constantly wants more and more, without knowing what to do with what you are already gathering. It only results in fear, grief and anxiety in your heart & mind. Everyone so readily compromises with their mental health to achieve trivial and ephemeral goals. I will illustrate an example which has been the most conventional and orthodox (in my opinion) norm. If you can afford Rs.20,000/- to buy a watch then nobody settles for a watch worth 5-6 thousand. Suddenly it becomes very difficult to find something in your taste and style in a reduced budget. In fact it seems only natural to be driven towards watches that are priced much above. I have even seen people take pride in having expensive taste. Though I keep wondering what exactly does it contribute to or what purpose will it ultimately solve. You will only want more and in few years you will aim to buy a more expensive watch. Nobody aims to get something of lesser value as their second buy, as it would somehow mean that your status or choice has become low. You’d worry that others will think, you cant afford better things anymore. The same goes for most things that we buy like a house, car, smartphone, etc. going way beyond our needs into the never ending realm of desires & wishes. In order to fulfil them you want to earn more and more.
If only anyone can realise this then the extra that you save can be utilised to gift something to your dear ones. You can even expand your horizon by gifting somebody you think deserves or needs. There are so many opportunities to contribute to the needs & happiness of people around you.
I have often seen that if a person is good at say painting, singing or a sport then each and everyone around starts advocating to pursue it as a career or aim for a higher ambition in that. The moment such vain ambition seeps into the mind of the one with the talent, its the tragic & untimely death of the free spirited expression and the contentment it was yielding. Its become a chore for which you & others keep evaluating your self and comparing with those who are better than you. Soon you have all the anxieties and complex which you didn't have when you begun.
Its so common to see people wanting to befriend those who are more successful and avoid those who havent achieved much. I dont see any harm in wanting to learn from people who are better than you at a particular skill or position but I dont condone ignoring or belittling those who are not as good as you are. As it will only lead to chaos and imbalance of nature. Why would those above you pay you any heed if you yourself are ignoring those below you in any strata.
Its not all that important to aim for promotion in all spheres of life and specially ones with monetary gains. As long as you are happy doing what you do and you have discovered what you are good at. As long as you get time to spend with your loved ones and some time to help others (friends, relatives or strangers). If you are not satisfied with what you already have then you will never find any peace when you get more. The peace & satisfaction is always in the present moment, if at all there is any. Its in your outlook & perspective of life, people and things around.
Believe me you don't have to rush anywhere to fulfil your fundamental needs. As you have everything that you need or its already on its way to you. If you need it and if you deserve it then it will be yours. You just have to fully accept yourself in your eyes and stop paying any heed to others opinion. People who hate weekends for they love their work or who live for weekends so they can enjoy their life, are both equally miserable. As they are not in acceptance of whats natural and are driven by fake ambitions and purposes. Its okay to fail, its okay to not succeed or be less successful than others. You can enjoy the most mundane activities like dusting or washing clothes, utensils, etc. Do not trap your happiness in only certain activities deemed by others to be fun and worthwhile. Everything else is an elaborate hoax.
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